February 23, 2024

Life circumstances or challenges are real. People don’t fake it, and they are not acting. And, take it you, as well as I am facing two, or more things that should keep our heads buried in CONFUSION, shame, anger or even isolation.

Yet you and I come out every day looking amazing. For most of us, it could be financial challenges. To others, it is a health challenge. Again, to others, it might be emotional challenges; too many others, it is spiritual challenges. And to many, they cannot place a thought on what is the matter.

Dear reader, I don’t know what you are facing, but I can beat my chest and say that it is part of why you can be confused about your walk with GOD today and tomorrow. You will question your salvation, your calling and even GOD. How did I know so? Because I am facing life challenges that drag my neck down in sadness and plenteous battles too.

Please stay through this guide and learn, okay? I pray and believe GOD will reveal HIMSELF to us in no time.

What are challenges or circumstances?

Circumstance: something related to, or in some way affects, a fact or event.

It also means an event, a fact, a particular incident

Challenge: a confrontation, a dare

  1. An antagonization or instigation intended to convince a person to perform an action they otherwise would not.
  2. A bid to overcome something.

Are you seeing these definitions?

What are life challenges?

Life challenges are daring events that impact our belief system and bend our faith. Life challenges or circumstances pressurise us to think of alternatives or routes that we would initially not think of or imagine.

So, in other words, this is not just about desires. Again, life challenges are real. It is inescapable because we are humans, and no matter who it is, everyone is passing through challenges. The only difference is the weight of the challenge on every one of us or how we are responding to these challenges.

You are far from being alone in this matter, so that should at least strengthen you, right?

Why so much pain? Why do we pass life challenges, you ask?

Most life challenges are like real horror movies, and it’s like a puzzle you cannot just get over. Like in the American film The Maze Runner, you wake every day to find a way out, but it becomes even more challenging every day.

It is as if testimonies are far from us, to the extent that people’s testimony sounds fake to many people.

We often become angry when people are genuinely happy, not because we hate them or because we are bad people but because we’ve not even experienced favor.

To many single ladies, maybe no man or (responsible men) have ever approached you. You keep the LORD’S word and love people genuinely, but every relationship you seem to get into rubs your pure heart in the mold and embitters you. You witness your siblings and friends enjoy favor, but you are nowhere near the corridors of it.

How about a family under constant domestic violence or emotional abuse? It does not matter who is inflicting the pain, but I can tell you it is painful.

To some of us, pressure and the desire to be free have pushed us to make unbelievable life decisions that have turned out to be MISTAKES. Now, we wake up with them right at our bed end daily.

To some ladies also, you’ve gone through sexual molestation, that has become a norm. You no longer fight it. You just give in.

What about the young ones in school? Perhaps your family is so poor that your next meal is not even a guarantee, let alone school fees or clothes. Others might be going through academic challenges, and you cannot understand a thing.

How about the home providers? Your business seems stagnant, nothing works, and all the family issues are on your head. Nobody seems to understand.

To the unmarried, you can no longer go online because you cannot watch others anymore. And even if you are sincerely happy, your family’s messages are still unread. You are avoiding them.

To the one’s married and without children, you seem to be losing it, five or even ten years in marriage, yet without fruit to call your own. Also, to many married ones, you are simply enduring a cheating or lying partner.

To most men, ladies have so rejected you that you wonder why you still desire to marry. You’ve faced betrayals in different forms.

To the ones married and divorced, you now hate marriage, that a single reminder re-opens the wound.

To many others, you lost your beloved spouse, a sibling or a parent.

Look, it is painful! LIFE ON ITS OWN IS HARD.

Do you now see that life challenges can cause CONFUSION even as a grounded Christian?

Why we go through life challenges

Let’s look at what Romans 5: 3-5 says, CEV

But that’s not all. We gladly suffer because we know that suffering helps us to endure. And endurance builds character, which gives us hope that it will never disappoint us.

Another bible passage says 2 Timothy 3:12

In fact, anybody who belongs to CHRIST JESUS and wants to live right will have trouble with others.

Remember, we said in one of our guides why many Christians are confused about life that Christians that believe CHRIST has paid every price and therefore a life of pain is unacceptable is one of the versions of CHRISTIANS that experience CONFUSION.

It is hard to believe, but it really becomes easier for us when we accept it.

JESUS CHRIST came not just to save and redeem us from the wrath of sin. HE came to show us the way to eternal life! HE showed the pattern of entering GOD’S kingdom. It is not supposed to be a bed of roses. Why do you think all the Apostles were martyred?

The kingdom of GOD comes with a price!

So, that your pain is unique to you, does not mean no other persons are not going through the same pain.

All of these are heavy burdens. What should we do about them? Let’s see

What should you do when you face life challenges?

Do you know what Matthew 11:28 says? It is a popular scripture. It says in CEV.

“If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me, and I will give you rest.”

You can read through 29 and 30 because it is as important as the read verse, but most of us run from it!

1 Peter 5:7 says GOD cares for you, so turn all your worries over to HIM.

But there’s a significant verse where HE said to carry your cross and follow HIM daily.

Our pains are so peculiar and different. Your pain and mine might look alike, but they are not the same, yet it is still PAIN.

Dear reader, carry your tears, tireless waiting, joblessness, financial crisis, irrelevance, inferiority complex, weaknesses, and sins that easily beset you. Carry them and follow HIM.

HE promised HE would take it away and give you a light yoke. But are you willing to let go? It’s not just saying yes. It’s about your heart.

  • When you face life challenges, brace up. It reveals your stance on GOD. Take it to HIM.
  • When facing life challenges, you should pray for grace to endure, but it must start with acceptance.
  • Accept that pain and challenges are part of life. However, it is essential to note that challenges can be self-inflicted or can be enemies strategy to wedge war against your faith. Ask GOD for clarification to ensure you are going through pain under HIS will and not your will.
  • Life challenges come with voices, so brace up and be ready to be misunderstood because you would have to yell at the devil outrightly when the voice of condemnation creeps in, voices that says you are not good enough or that GOD has forsaken you. Destroy all strongholds and words that try to exalt themselves above the WORD of GOD with the WORD of GOD.
  • Surround yourself with empowering messages and songs.
  • Talk to brethren, men who have gone through the same pain.
  • Read more, study the word, learn about GOD’S love and let it saturate your heart.

What do life challenges do to us?

Life challenges can make or mar us depending on the route we take

  • Life challenges mold us to become better.
  • It builds us up.
  • We develop strength of character through life challenges
  • Life challenges prepare us for another season.
  • Challenges transform us when we overcome them
  • It breaks but reveals the life we have in CHRIST
  • Circumstances or challenges stretch and strengthen our faith.

Consequences of not going through life challenges

  • You will lack compassion
  • When you don’t go through life challenges, you never really become made.
  • Without facing life challenges, you disrupt the plans of GOD for your life or others.
  • You will not be transformed. The loopholes will show during your time of manifestation.
  • When you don’t go through life challenges, you judge others and talk them out of the plans of GOD for their lives.

Dear reader, in the end, it turns out that the pain we are running from is good.


If you are facing life circumstances or challenges, please take it as your wilderness experience. Could you go through it with honour and dignity? There are many lessons you must learn through the pain. So, that betrayal, public assault, disappointment, and delay could be GOD’S plan, too.

All these make us more human if you are willing to enjoy the grace GOD supplies to lead us through pain. Please don’t waste your pain and recycle it again. Pass this test and move on to the next level. Prove yourself worthy so that GOD can trust you with more!

Let’s learn to allow GOD to mold us even through life challenges. This way, we are made complete, steady, solid and firm, just as 1 Peter 5:10c says.

We have come to the end of this series, and we hope it blesses you.

Is it still possible for people, especially Christians, to still be confused about life even after knowing these?

I wish I knew the answer, but until we are led to reveal them to you, please stay safe, stay sane and stay in the will of GOD. Thank you!

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